Miracles are not contrary to nature, but only contrary to what we KNOW about nature.
Today I want to talk about Life Changing Moments.
And the courage it takes to change our lives.
One of my close friends has been dealing with some pretty big family issues for over 20 yrs now.
These conflicts are wearing her down.
She is tired.
and frustrated to say the least.
Her story is like so many other stories that we hear about.
In my 41 yrs, I have had more than my fair share of trials in life.
When I was in my 20’s, my default response to any challenge was to pick up the “metaphorical Sword” and head straight into battle…
The main problem with this approach was that you cannot fight a war and not suffer casualties.
Or… in other words, when you take a hostile approach to your life, you will just create more hostilities.
As I have gotten older I began to understand a profound truth…
It takes TWO people to fight.
That SHIFT in perception has literally changed my life.
Most times, I will walk away from a conflict and just leave the other person standing there looking and feeling confused.
I refuse to engage in a screaming match with anyone.
When they are ready to DISCUSS the issue in a calm and mature manner, then I will stand and work on a mutual resolution.
I recently read about a married couple who had been married for over 30 yrs. Most of those 30 yrs had been unhappy.
At a doctors visit the husband was told he had terminal cancer.
Prior to the diagnosis, their relationship had been filled with bickering, finger-pointing, and a general sense of frustration.
There was plenty of conflict, and anger, but very little laughter or mutual respect and love.
They had been “going through the motions” for so long that neither could remember the last time they felt loving toward the other.
But that all changed the day they got the Bad News.
Their love for one another, which had been all but swallowed up by the bitterness and negativity suddenly returned- along with their perspective and gratitude.
They experienced what might be called a “CHANGE OF HEART” or a sudden shift.
Most of the issues that had been tearing them apart for years,
that only days before had been so irritating, suddenly seemed insignificant.
Like a dark cloud parting to allow the sun to shine, it was as though years of ill feelings disappeared, replaced with warmth and love.
They were both the exact same two people..
with the exact same habits and history.
So what was it that changed them?
The only thing that had changed was their awareness of an illness.
In other words…
the shift that had occurred was entirely a MENTAL shift.
Suddenly they realized how ridiculously they had been behaving.
EVERY SINGLE SHIFT THAT WE WILL EVER HAVE WILL BE A MENTAL SHIFT…
So, with that in mind…
Why wait till it’s nearly too late to start being a more loving and compassionate person.
It does NOT require BAD news to cause a shift in your attitude.
You can choose right now to live your life differently.
The only thing necessary is a genuine desire, openness, and a willingness to see things differently, as well as a little humility, the willingness to admit that you must be stuck seeing something in a way that is hurting rather than helping your relationships…or any area of your life for that matter.
So, in the case of my friend, I suggested to her that she Stop believing that she is in a desperate situation at all.
I asked her to consider what might happen if she STOPPED trying to “fix” the problems in her family.
What if she just surrendered her feelings of how she believed things should be, and just allowed the people to be who and what they are without judgement from her?
What if she just handed this problem over to the Lord and then…Walked away?
Her other choice is to continue to allow this situation to steal her joy and quality of life away from her.
So often, we hold onto past wrongs that were done to us so tightly that we are afraid that if we let go of them our life will spin out of control.
We have been “wielding the sword” for so long that we have become battle fatigued.
We are no longer able to see the situation clearly.
We feel righteous in our anger.
We feel entitled to our belief that we are right…and refuse to accept that we just might be part of the problem.
That maybe in some way we are actually the one who is creating the resentments in our life.
We as humans are capable of so much more than we can even imagine…
In fact, our true genius resides just outside the boundaries of what we believe to be possible.
Today, I want to challenge you to…
NEVER SETTLE FOR WHAT YOU CAN CURRENTLY IMAGINE.
What do I mean by this?
We are all captives to our own imaginations.
In other words, your wildest dreams form the outer limit of what you believe to be achievable.
However, there are many people who are currently living lives,
and creating realities
that are so far beyond what you could ever imagine that it will simply never occur to you to think about it…
What would happen if you decided to suspend all disbelief in the POSSIBILITIES?
Think about history.
At one time it was believed that running a 4 minute mile was impossible.
It was believed by scientists to be beyond the furthest bounds of what a human body could do. They believed that our physiology could not withstand the stresses needed to break this barrier.
Too bad for them that is wasn’t true.
When Roger Bannister beat the 4 minute mile in 1954, he was almost immediately followed by another,
and then another,
and then hundreds of “anothers”,
all running miles in under 4 minutes.
Today running a 4 minute mile is not even considered great.
It’s simple really…
Bannister went to the very edge of everyone’s wildest dreams about how fast a runner could go and he used that point as a starting block, rather than a finish line.
YOU CAN DO THE SAME!
What are your wildest dreams?
What offenses are you clinging to out of fear of letting it go?
What would happen if you relocated your starting point and determined that those things that seem so far out of your reach were moved to the position of a starting point and the impossible was then put as your GOAL?…
We all have things that we dream of.
But that is what we think they will always be…DREAMS.
But what if your dreams could become reality.
What if you allowed your idea to reach critical mass?
The only thing needed for a SHIFT is your mental permission for it to happen.
Which road will you take when you reach that cross-road?
We as humans have the ability to love deeper.
To give more.
To Be More.
To live the lives that we were created to live.
Today, allow your desires and ideas to reach CRITICAL MASS…