Figuring out why we are here, and what our purpose is may very well be one of life most challenging discoveries.
Today I want to explore different areas that can help this discovery become possible.
The first and most important thing to remember is this…We gravitate towards what we contemplate.
So here are a few more points to ponder as you attempt to discover your own unique purpose in life.
What do I mean by this?
Simply that, if you stop and ask this question before judging someones words or actions, “Is this person basically a good willed human being?”
You will be less likely to react as harshly to their words or actions as you would, if you automatically assume they are bad people who are deliberately intending to hurt you.
Constantly extend grace, kindness and forgiveness to all mankind.
(Again, this will be a lot easier to accomplish if you are in the mindset that most people are generally good willed humans.)
Until we know who we are and why we were created, we risk the temptation of allowing other things and other people to define our worth.
Feelings can keep us from accomplishing our purpose; since we can’t change the way we feel, we have to learn how to change the way we think.
God invites us to align our thoughts with His.
One of the greatest gaps existing in life is the gap between knowing and doing.
To live our purpose, we must take steps in the right direction in order to end at the right destination.
Though our past shapes us, it does not need to define us.
We rarely takes steps toward positive change until the pain of staying the same exceeds the pain of change.
Our worth doesn’t reside in a our own validation but in the unmistakable testimony of who God says we are.
Learn what FAITH actually is, and that will change your life.
Faith isn’t conjuring up a noble notion and asking God to bless it.
Faith simply aligns itself with God’s purpose for our life and follows after it.
Faith isn’t contingent on the outcome of our circumstances.
Faith resides in the unshakable confidence of who we are and God’s good intent towards us.
Accept that no man (or woman) is perfect.
Expecting a person to be perfect is not only unrealistic, but it also sets us up for failure.
Transformation occurs when we look inward and decide,
“What’s my part?
How can I help?
How do I need to change?”
Our beliefs shape our actions.
No one can consistently operate outside the congruency of their thoughts and expect to maintain integrity to an idea or good notion.
Transformation takes place within our own heart, individually.
We cannot change another person.
We are responsible for our own life and actions.
Bring out the best in man by choosing to remember him by his best moments, not his worst.
We cannot give what we do not possess.
Serve instead of expecting to be served.
Speak words of gratitude instead of complaint.
Seek to understand instead of insisting to be understood.
Focus on all the things you love about someone, not all the ways they need to change.
Verbalize all the things you love about someone instead of all the things that are lacking.
When we focus only on our needs, we inevitably find ourselves on the short end, needing and feeling short-changed.
However, the more we concentrate on fulfilling the needs of others, the more we feel fulfilled.
Transformation requires letting go of offenses and extending forgiveness.
Transformation believes and brings out the best in others.
Transformation applies knowledge with action.
The problem isn’t in our desires, but to whom we allocate our expectations to meet those desires.
Until we fill our God-sized vacuum with God’s Spirit, we will sabotage our relationships with unrealistic expectations.
Transformation takes time.
It requires my concentrated attention and intentional actions.
It is a result of an ongoing process; it’s more than an event.
Learn to communicate correctly.
We often expect others to read our minds, and then get upset when they fail.
How many times have you harbored hurt and anger toward a loved one because they failed to read your mind?
Learning to CLEARLY ask for the things you need is imperative if you want to maintain healthy, loving relationships.
Learn to speak the truth lovingly.
It is easy to speak the truth.
It ie easy to speak lovingly.
BUT…the challenge is learning to speak the TRUTH, LOVINGLY.
For example, I ask you if my outfit makes me look fat.
The truth is that, yes it does.
So how would it sound if you lovingly told me the truth?
It would sound like this…
“It is not the most flattering outfit I have seen you wear, why don’t you wear that purple one that I like so much on you instead?”
This response will not insult me, but will also not allow me to go out in public looking fat.
Learning to be honest in a loving way is a skill that needs to be mastered.
I hope that these small tips today helped you realize that…
Transformation occurs when we fully realize God loves us passionately and designed us on purpose for a purpose.