Day 8: Hpoium Dependency: Stopping the “What IF” and Worry syndrome.

When something’s bothering you, you know that

getting your mind off of it is easier said than done.







In fact, research shows that when people are instructed not to think about a specific topic, it makes it even harder to get that topic out of their minds.

But rehashing negative thoughts over and over in your head, also known as rumination, can be unpleasant and counterproductive—and in some cases, it can even lead to chronic depression.


“It’s like a needle in a groove,” says Guy Winch, PhD psychologist and author of  “Emotional First Aid: Practical Strategies for Treating Failure, Rejection, Guilt, and Other Everyday Psychological Injuries.”

“As the groove gets deeper and deeper, the needle has a harder time getting out of the groove.”

What’s more, rumination can actually make you more angry or upset than you were originally, because the issue becomes magnified in your mind.









You could actually say that your mind is addicted to negative thinking…

But in truth it’s “you” who is addicted to negative thoughts.

That is the VERY reason for this series on Hopium Dependency.

We as a society have gotten so used to sitting around WISHING life was better, but NOT DOING anything at all to actually CHANGE our lives.

The “mind” only responds to your vibration and interest.

The “mind” does not have a life of it’s own.

The mind gathers it’s momentum from your attention.

Through your constant attention to negative thoughts, you have given a lot of momentum to the negative thinking in your mind.

Your mind now it feels as if  “IT” has a life of its own and that it’s thinking negative thoughts constantly.

The first step towards freedom from negative thinking is to become “conscious” of your own dysfunctional thoughts…your addiction to “Hopium”.

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You don’t become a “realist” by thinking negatively.

Most people defend their “habit” of thinking negative thoughts by stating that they are being “realistic”.

Let’s stop here for just a second and ask ourselves a simle, yet powerful question…

Do you enjoy being around a person who is NEVER positive?


Negative people honestly believe that they are only being “truthful” when they think negatively about their life and the world in general.

Some even feel guilty about thinking a positive thought, or a thought of well-being.

The truth however is that whenever you align yourself with a negative thought, you align yourself against life, because life cannot support you in a negative thought.








The reason you feel “bad” when you think a negative thought is because in that moment you are pulling yourself away from the natural energy flow of life.


When you are disconnected from the natural energy of life (which is based in love and joy), you end up creating a reality that is based in fear and lack.

So when you are thinking a negative thought you are

not be a “realist” you are just being a “hinderer” of

your well-being.

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Negative thinking is a habit!


Like any addiction, negative thinking gathers

momentum with daily use.

You may be a person who has been predominantly thinking negative thoughts since your childhood, so now you’ve become deeply addicted to the habit of negative thinking so much so that you start feeling a loss of “identity” when you try to align with joy or love.

This is a highly dysfunctional addiction because it causes you to stay disconnected with life itself, and hence it keeps you rooted in a reality which perpetuates suffering.

I pray that by the end of this series on HOPIUM ADDICTION, you will have gained a new perspective, and adopted some positive habits that will help you end your addiction.

Just to see this dysfunction in you is enough to create a “shift” within.

You have to be willing to let go of your “defensiveness” and acknowledge that your negative thinking is the only reason for the negative reality you are living in.

Stop coming up with excuses to defend your addiction to negative thinking.









When you start becoming more and more conscious of this dysfunctional habit in you, it starts slowing down in momentum.

You can consciously move your attention away from the stream of negative thinking in your mind.

With time, the mind will start losing the momentum that it had gathered.

Once the mind loses its “negative thinking” momentum, you will be free to think in the direction of your desires, and thus align with the energy of joy (which is the vibration of life).

Letting go of negative thinking can feel like a loss of identity!

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The mind does have a huge momentum and so it takes sometime before it slows down and eventually dissolves all patterns of negative thinking.

Be patient with yourself and allow this process to happen.

It can take a few months, or even a year, for the mind to fully dissolve the momentum it had gathered due to your attention to negative thinking.

It’s very normal to feel a sense of “disorientation” when the mind starts losing its “familiar” patterns of negative thinking.

A lot of people feel a sense of “loss” or emptiness when the mind starts dissolving its old patterns of negativity, as they stop feeding it with their attention.

There can even be a lot fear associated with moving out of the familiar domain of negative reality.


It could be really helpful here to remind yourself that you are overcoming an addiction, and to visualize what that would look and feel like.

Doing that will ease a tremendous amount of the fear you have of letting go if the negatvity.

If you are rooted in the knowledge that by dissolving your negative thinking habit, you will  ultimately be creating a positive reality, a reality aligned with your true nature of love, joy and peace.

Then- You will be grounded in the knowledge that…

You can make this transition quite easily.



2 thoughts on “Day 8: Hpoium Dependency: Stopping the “What IF” and Worry syndrome.

  1. So true that negative thoughts while something is bothering me is so hard to get out of my mind. I have learned that there comes a point that I have to make a conscious decision to just ‘stop’. And this has only come after the point that I realized letting something eat away at me makes me physically sick. I’d been emotionally sick since the moment I let the negative thoughts start. Great post, great series.

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