What if I could download, directly to your brain,
the secret to engineering a total life turnaround?
There is a method in the Eastern traditions called “Sympathetic Joy”.
What is this you ask…
It is simply feeling in the joy and happiness of others.
For example, lets say that you have a child who is going off to college for the first time and you are anticipating feeling sad and lonely when they leave.
By utilizing the “sympathetic Joy method”, you can actually train yourself to feel what your child is feeling at the prospect of going to college.
You do this by making a daily practice of sitting quietly and connecting with the joy of your child.
Within 30 days, your mind will begin to feel the same feelings as your child.
When I first started this practice, I will admit, it felt very phony.
I was even a little embarrassed.
But I was determined to see it through, so I kept at it.
By the time my child graduated and was ready to leave, I was actually feeling very happy for him.
The feelings of sadness that I had anticipated earlier never did surface.
I was able to send him out into his adult life with joy and my blessing.
The painter Magritte, when asked about his mysterious surrealist images, commented, ” It is the best proof of my break with the absurd mental habits that take the place of an authentic feeling of existence.”
Is it possible to bring our “absurd mental habits” into awareness?
Can we actually learn how to attune our minds not just to our-self, but to others as well?
My answer to those questions is a resounding YES!
For me, the moment of awareness came to me after the death of my son.
I was forced to accept the fragility of life.
I could no longer deny that life can end in a moment, with no notice or warning.
This has led me on a quest for happiness. The kind of happiness that can exist even in the saddest of times.
By determining that I was going to live my life to the fullest.
Love my family and friends completely,
and never waste on second of the time I was given,
I have discovered a rare and precious jewel…
A clear vision of how the choices I make, which are motivated from the place I’m in at any given moment- can literally turn me either toward a positive experience or a negative one..
I have rarely fallen into the cynical mood that dominated my life prior to Victor’s death, and for me that is a rare and precious jewel.
One of the reasons that Monet is one of my favorite painters is because of how he was able to invite the world to join him in seeing the world in a fresh new way.
Art historians tell us that Monet’s remarkable impressionist works were partly an expression of the distorted perceptions induced by his cataracts. As his vision became increasingly blurred, he went on painting through the years, depicting what he saw.
Monet took great care in his study of light, and the way that light altered what we see.
The point for him seems not to have been whether the landscape was foggy or clear, but rather how he captured light on the canvas.
He single- handedly changed the way artists use light on canvas. We no longer just assume that the quality of the painting is determined by the clarity of the image, but we also now judge it’s quality based upon the artists ability to capture the qualities of light on the images in the painting.
Can you allow yourself to perceive anew?
Is your vision blurred by past events that are making it difficult to focus on happiness?
Do you believe it is possible to find wisdom , or at the very least clarity , in the thick of confusion?
I guess the question really comes down to where we focus our attention.
When you focus on negative things and feelings, then all you will see is NEGATIVE.
But if you can train your mind to identify the positives in every situation, and every person, then you will notice your life becoming a more positive and secure place to exist.
Dr Beck, a renowned Psychiatrist has found that people who typically view the glass as half empty are not just more pessimistic, they are also more susceptible to a depressed mode.
So, I guess the Vulcan Mind Meld, is just a fictional theory from one of my all time favorite TV shows, and movies, and not something real…
But I honestly believe that life is filled to the brim with opportunities to practice compassion.
By attuning ourselves to these opportunities we will strengthen our mindfulness, which will increase our awareness, and therefore bring more clarity and focus into our lives…
So I guess in a way the Vulcan Mind Meld does exist in real life after all.
By listening and empathizing with others we are learning to attune to the genuine essence of people.
Once we know that negative moods will happen to every one of us, we can develop compassion and acknowledge their moods, but not get sucked into them, or become distracted by them.
This applies to our own moods as well.
I hope that each and every one of you will attempt to learn the process of “Sympathetic Joy” and allow it to grow and strengthen your ties with the people in your life.
I would encourage you to Google the term and learn more about the process. It is after all, the closest us humans on planet Earth will ever get to the Vulcan Mind meld.