And that’s when things go from bad to worse…

Today, I debated with myself whether or not to write about 9/11.

I know that the internet will be flooded with posts about that tragic event and how it changed so many of our lives forever.

I don’t want to just provide lip service to that tragedy, so that is why I was struggling with the decision of … “Do I write about it or not?”

What I finally realized I needed to do was to write a post about tragedy in general. And then share some of the ways I have been able to overcome some of the tragic events in my life.

September is NOT my favorite month. In fact, I DREAD it’s arrival every year.

Not only is it the month that terrorists changed the world we lived in.

It is also the month that both of my divorces occurred in.

And my son Victor took his life on September 18, nine years ago.

So, for me September is that time of year the I literally have to “just Survive”.

But here is one thing I know for sure, throughout life there will be things that happen that we don’t like,

Things we are not happy with and would prefer to have never happened or never have taken place.

(Like Victor’s Suicide)

When we think about them, they not only upset us, they make us feel bad,

we can get angry,


and worst of all, we block our power.

During these times we often unconsciously prevent ourselves from ever having the chance to enjoy a better, more fulfilling and happy life.

We are so convinced that life will never get better, that we just kind of give up!

So Today, In honor of the tragedy that happened in New York, lets really try hard to let go of these bad memories.

Lets pray for the strength to let go of the negative experiences and practice our faith so that we can begin to live the kind of life we want to live.

Trust me, I understand just how strongly those bad memories and negative events want to linger and occupy your mind.

For me, they come up unexpectedly, and before I know it
they can nearly consume me.

Especially thoughts about my son Victor. This time of year especially,I keep thinking about him.







My stomach starts to turn.

I can feel myself starting to get upset.

And it is usually when I hit the point where I start to feel angry that I finally catch myself in this unconscious thinking that is so devastating to my life.




Maybe you find yourself thinking about what someone did.
Or something that happened that you didn’t like.
It can even be something that you didn’t want to happen but did.
Or something that just didn’t work out for you.

Have you ever felt like somebody took something away from you you?

Or that you were cheated, or denied what you think was the perfect opportunity.


Then you doubt yourself, you doubt your power, you keep thinking
about things and that’s when things go from bad to worse.

Before you know it  your mind gets filled with negative thoughts
You keep hanging on,

You just keep thinking about it over and over again and you
attract more and more negative thoughts.

You can’t sleep
You want to do something but don’t know what
You just keep hanging on to those memories
You keep thinking about what happened.
The negative thoughts keep coming…
You just can’t let go…

But you CAN let go.

You have to let go and you can move on
and create the kind of life you want.

You CAN stop beating yourself up
You CAN get rid of those negative thoughts

The positive thoughts can come from the exact same place as the negative ones do.

On Tuesday, I talked about taking small steps to lose weight.

Today, I am going to give you the same advice.

Take your thoughts and begin to change them one thought at a time.

When you find yourself being negative again, don’t add to that by feeling guilty, just give yourself a mental hug and reassure yourself that you are doing better today!

You’re only hanging on to the past, hanging on to those negative
thoughts, negative beliefs and past negative memories because
your mind doesn’t know any better.

So start today to bring awareness to this issue.

That alone will make such a BIG difference in your life that it will begin to snowball, and before you know it, you will be feeling in control again.







Those thoughts of worry, doubt, fear, and anger cripple you
They don’t allow you to succeed.

They hold you back.

Fill your mind with positive thoughts and get your subconscious
power to help you enjoy more happiness, and more success
so you live the kind of live you really want to live.


Here is some food for thought that you can chew on this weekend:

When you constantly think of the past and allow those negative thoughts to fill your mind you end up creating more negative energy…
which is then transferred to your subconscious mind.

This negative energy then prevents your subconscious from helping you move forward.
It prevents you from being happy.
And it doesn’t let you get what you want in life.
The longer you hang on to those past memories,
the more you think about what went wrong,
the harder it gets to move forward,
and you end up confusing your subconscious power.


Your subconscious knows the present, it exists in the here and now.

When you’re constantly thinking about the past your subconscious can’t help you.

It can’t go back into the past and change things.

So it gets confused and can’t help you.


The past is in the past.

What happened can’t be undone no mater how much you think about it.

Sometimes you won’t get solutions.

Sometimes you won’t always understand right away why things happened or what went wrong.

And that’s  

My prayer for all of you today is that you will find the wisdom and determination to Let go of the past and start living in the present. Enjoy each day. Think about what kind of life you want to live now and tomorrow.

3 thoughts on “And that’s when things go from bad to worse…

  1. I love you Mel…
    Never become complacent in life and your way of thinking.
    Don’t sit down in the middle of the storm and make a picnic out of it (this is my own advice too…)
    Fold that gingham blanket back up – put it back into the picnic basket and push through the storms.
    Life is beautiful every single day…


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