We all have our very own “THORN” that we must carry in this lifetime.
I had a conversation with one of my dearest friends today.
She is struggling with things from her past,
Employment trials in the present,
And worries over the future, and what direction she should take.
So this post is for her.
She is one of the strongest women I know.
She has shown me through example what living faith looks like.
So my sweet friend, and anyone else who is in need of encouragement today…This post is for you!
My favorite passage about this subject is found in 2 Corinthians.
When Paul is pleading with the Lord to remove His Thorn, and the Lord teaches him that His Grace is Enough.
This song is one of my favorites. The truth of the message has been a great comfort in my life, so I want to share it with you today.
Here is the story of Paul and his THORN.
2 Corinthians 12:7-10
7 To keep me from becoming conceited because of these surpassingly great revelations, there was given me a thorn in my flesh, a messenger of Satan, to torment me.
8 Three times I pleaded with the Lord to take it away from me.
9 But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me.
10 That is why, for Christ’s sake, I delight in weaknesses, in insults, in hardships, in persecutions, in difficulties. For when I am weak, then I am strong.
This little passage of scripture has become my mantra.
I too, have learned to find peace in my trials.
I know that the Lord will not protect me from the things that He is using to Prepare me.
But how do you start to figure out what the lessons are?
That REALLY is the hardest part about healing our past, accepting our present, and facing the future.
For me I sat down a made a list of all the areas of my life that were in shambles.
My list included:
#1: Childhood disappointments that had shaped my adult decisions.
#2: Beliefs about love and marriage. And the relationships that had shaped those beliefs.
#3: Beliefs about myself, and my abilities, my dreams, my failures.
#4: Beliefs about God. What did I really KNOW about Him, and how did I really FEEL about Him.
#5: My beliefs about my role as a parent.
#6: Who am I as a woman?
#7: Where did I see myself in ten years?
#8: Addressing all the scars on my heart that had not been allowed to heal.
#9: How do I face abandonment and disappointments?
#10: Prayer, faith, and meditation.
Once this list was formed, I finally felt like I had some kind of direction and focus for my personal healing and transformation.
If you are really serious about changing yourself you need to accept that your emotional health is just like any other part of your life.
It needs a plan of action that you can tangibly see and work on if you are ever going to make any real progress in healing.
(For today I am going to compare it to our finances.)
If we never balance our checkbook.
Never create a budget.
And never set long term goals for where our money should go, our financial life will quickly spiral out of control and we will find ourselves in a heap of trouble.
Our Emotional life is exactly the same way.
It NEEDS to become a priority.
We need to have a vision and a plan for how to address our emotional healing.
(which is what my list was for me).
Then once we develop a plan, we need to manage the items on that list daily, sometimes hourly.
We need to get on our knees and ask for Divine Guidance and assistance to get us through this process of self discovery and healing.
We need to be willing to be alone during this time if that is what is required.
I found some of my best healing took place during the times when I was utterly alone.
The only person I had to depend on was the Lord.
It was during one of the periods where I was alone with God that I had the insight to make my list.
I had the idea to make my list into a kind of TREASURE HUNT.
That was probably one of the best things I ever did for myself!
I turned my healing into a game. It seemed easier to manage all those difficult issues once I began to see it as a hunt where the ultimate prize was my peace of mind!
I imagined my list as if it were a treasure map,
And the treasure under the X was my utter relief and happiness.
For any of you that know the pain of abuse or betrayal, you can understand why I used the words utter relief.
Can you even imagine how liberating it would feel if you could once and for all face those demons that torment your soul?
It would be an utter relief wouldn’t it?
So now that you have your “treasure Map” you can begin to use it as a tool that will guide you through the issues that need to be handled.
Just like on a REAL treasure hunt, you need to take it one step at a time.
Once you have unearthed one “CLUE”, you can then and only then move on to the next.
By getting clear and focused like this you will be amazed at how the universe will open up and assist you in your journey.
I was constantly being given books, movies, songs, and words of wisdom that arrived in my life at the perfect moment to help me on my journey.
My biggest piece of advice is to never lose faith.
Know that the Angels are there to assist you each and every step along the way.
You are loved, protected and cherished by the God of all Creation.
His greatest desire is to have you turn to Him when you have hit the end of your rope and your brokenness is too much for you to bear.
He knows exactly where to find all of the missing pieces of you that you have lost along the way.
He knows just how to heal them and put you back together so that you will forevermore be a stronger, more resilient person. One who is filled with courage, hope and a determination to live life dedicated to the light.
I hope these words bring you comfort my sweet sister. You mean more to me than you will ever know.
I love you!