Last Friday I wrote a post about an issue I had with my youngest child.
Today I would like to dive deep into finding the solution to stopping the “INNER WARS on our HEART”.
Jeff and I have been participating in a walking contest with some of his co-workers.
The goal is to walk at least 20,000 steps a day.
When we decided that we were going to accept this challenge, we were both pretty unsure about our ability to actually walk that many steps in a day.
Not only have we been able to accomplish that amount, we have exceeded it a few times.
So what does this have to do with WINNING THE WAR?
Just like Jeff and I didn’t think we would be able to reach the goal of 20,000 steps,
Many of us don’t believe we can stop the WAR on our HEARTS.
So I will break down the process that I use when I find myself STUCK in a negative state of mind into 3 STEPS and WALK you through the process necessary to change your mindset from NEGATIVE to POSITIVE.
One sure way to tell if you’re negative about something that’s happened to you… is when you can’t stop thinking about it.
You find yourself constantly reliving some idea or past memory that simply won’t stop.
Make no mistake here:
Any thought about an past event that you can’t get to stop running through your mind… is running a race of its own!
Learn to Dismiss Self-Wrecking Thoughts.
How often do you find yourself ruminating over some past mistake?
How much time do you waste painfully reliving how you initially fell down — either a moment ago or ten years back?
The pain you are feeling when you are reliving that painful moment from the past is actually nothing more than regret that the event ever took place at all!
Ask yourself this POWERFUL question: What on earth compels me to wrestle with Imaginary Mental Ghosts?
After all, once something has happened in our life — that moment is over;
Clearly, the past ACTUALLY no longer exists in the here and Now.
we have to ask ourselves,
Given that this knowledge is above dispute,
How can something from our own past feel as real and as alive as it does to us in the present moment?
The answer to that question holds the secret to living in a world that is filled with possibility and joy instead of sorrow and dread.
So let’s explore the answer together right now:
Within our mind lingers an untold number of chemically and electrically stored images of the way things were.
These mental pictures include complete scenes of every experience from our past.
All of the Hopes and dreams that are created from pleasurable images of achievements yet to come.
These images create a sort of SECRET STOREHOUSE where all of the sensations that accompanied them in the moment of their creation is kept.
Each one is laden with its original emotional content that is standing at the ready to pour into us each time we revisit that particular memory.
The only reason we ever find ourselves caught in a psychological storm is because we have been drawn,
without knowing it,
into identifying with —
actually merging with —
mental images from our past.
These images are pre-loaded psychological time capsules —
with punishing thoughts and feelings
that flood into us the instant we reconnect with them.
These memories are invisible,
Fully capable of delivering psychically palpable blows as the memories pour through us.
As the memories begin to punish us, we are unconsciously trained to try and resist them —
All of which makes us feel as though we are trapped in a storm about which we can do nothing other than try to escape its lashing!
That is why it is so IMPORTANT that you resisting your feelings.
Let them flow freely through you.
Don’t try to block, stop, or alter them in any way.
Just Feel your Feelings.
Because once you invite them into your mind, and acknowledge that they are just a ghost from your past, you will never again need to endure the pounding of those stored up feelings.
No storm of mental torment or dark, emotional suffering belongs to you.
Any wave of Resentment,
that comes to wash you away
IS nothing more than a kind of psychic residue left over from who you once were.
Not only do these negative states have nothing in common with your true nature,
They cannot enter into your present moment once you have learned to identify the ghosts from your past and the residual feelings that they carry.
We cannot be punished by any painful thought when we are grounded in the present moment.
The reason for this perfect protection is as pure as it is simple:
Psychological storms are powerless to hurt us with their destructive forces when we are aware of their traps.
Once they have been exposed for the NOTHINGNESS that they are, They no longer have a way to remain in our minds.
From this moment forward, whenever some storm of dark thoughts appears in us…
That we must neither run from it, nor stand there and hate what we think is happening.
Instead we simply need to
And bring ourselves back into the Now and quietly,
drop any image that our mind plants within us to justify the brewing conflict.
Learning to dismiss negative thoughts that trip us up and attempt to ruin our chances of winning the race to be happy takes dedicated inner work.