I believe everything we need to succeed is inside us as children,
it often gets slowly pushed out of us as we grow older.
By the time we’re teenagers we have either forgotten these lessons
been forced to bury them.
If you are like me,
DEEP inside you don’t feel any different than you did at age ten or twelve,
That you likely don’t play baseball anymore,
AND you probably haven’t done a somersault in years.
(I am not suggesting you start.)
What I am saying is that you get back a few of those great qualities you had as a kid that kept your mind open to possibility and made life fun, interesting, and full of hope.
Here’s a few ideas on how you can do just that:
#1: Learn to enjoy failure.
If you really stop and think about it long and hard…
Everything you did as a kid required TRYING & FAILING.
Climbing a tree,
Riding a bike,
or tying your shoes
all forced you to fumble and fail.
But you did not care.
Mistakes were just part of the process.
You had no embarrassment or shame –
only a desire to go faster to learn and master all of the exciting things that were ahead of you.
One of the most powerful ways you can immediately Rid yourself from fear of failure is to start learning RIGHT NOW how you can let go of what other people think about you.
The obsession with perfection, fearing mistakes and failure ruins opportunities and destroys your potential.
Oh and another thing, failures teach you valuable lessons just like they did when you were young.
Ever burn your hand on a hot stove?
See, you never did that again, did you?
#2: Start asking.
Have you ever spent much time around a child?
If so, you know that they NEVER stop asking questions.
When you were young you were the very same way.
You asked questions all the time because you were curious.
As adults we have let go of that great skill.
We start to just assume we can predict what people are thinking.
We THINK we already KNOW what they will do.
Exactly how they will answer our question.
We assume they won’t buy,
they won’t help,
or that they are not interested.
Now that may be true, but how do you know for sure?
Rejection is all around.
But avoiding rejection from others means you reject yourself first!
Give other people the opportunity to say no and don’t make assumptions.
#3: Don’t take no for an answer.
Okay, I am not suggesting you become a spoiled brat.
I am NOT advocating that you throw yourself down on the ground and pound your fists and feet until you get your own way…
I am just trying to jog your memory a little bit so I can help you remember the tenacity you had as a child.
Back then…One ‘no’ from someone was simply an invitation to open the conversation.
It was the starting place to getting to where we wanted to go.
We got creative and bargained,
We learned how to persuade and convince –
(even if it was just for a nickel to buy a gumball.)
It was a great skill!
So don’t take that ‘no’ so easily.
Remember that NO is quite often the beginning of a relationship, and often ends in a YES if we are patient and positively persistent.
I hope that by now you are starting to remember all the hope and possibility you had as a kid and that it can be found once again.
YOU need to tap back into these traits to do it.
They are still there just waiting for you to remember them.