What if I promised you that I could make you stand out in a crowd?
Or that I could give you a secret formula that would GUARANTEE your success in Love and relationships?
How much would you be willing to pay for that kind of insider information?
Well I have great news….
Today I am going to give you that kind of powerful information for
It won’t cost you a penny.
I have personally researched each and every insight in the trenches of my very own life.
Every insight I will be sharing with you today has the power to literally transform your life…
you are willing to allow the TRUTH of my words to sink in,
make the necessary adjustments to your thinking that will allow you to integrate these insights into your daily life.
So here are the POWERFUL insights
to make you HAPPIER…
#1: Love is a choice, Attraction ISN’T
What do I mean by that?
It’s simple really…We really don’t have any more control over who you fall for than you do over gravity.
We all suffer from a condition that many refer to as “INSTANT ATTRACTION”,
When the chemical craziness of that first attraction wears off (after days or months or years),
That is when you will finally start to wake up every day, look at the person in your bed and to be in love with them.
You can ALSO choose to love someone too.
Don’t be a love victim.
I wasted too many years of my life desperately trying to keep a relationship together that I should have just walked away from.
Too many folks stay with men and women who are awful for them because they “love” them or because they’re afraid of “failing”.
You have to love yourself FIRST and sometimes that means walking away.
You get this one life to be happy.
Don’t waste it.
#2: “Soulmates” aren’t found, They Are MADE.
There’s no “The One,” there’s dozens… hundreds of men or women out there who would be perfect for you.
Finding “the one” means finding someone wonderful and working together to create something extraordinary.
I honestly believe that my oldest child is my greatest soul mate.
Together we have helped each other grow and develop life skills that alone we would never have understood.
So, obviously I also don’t believe that a SOUL MATE has to be a romantic partner.
I believe that a soul mate is a person who helps you become the very best version of yourself.
#3: Nobody can make you a victim but you.
I work at an elementary school, so I gets lot’s of kids every day telling me how someone is making them crazy.
But nobody can “make” you a victim, any more than they can “make” you happy.
So I always take the child aside and explain to them that another persons behavior does NOT have the power to render them helpless to their feelings.
I offer them a few more choices for feelings that the other person’s behavior might cause them besides “CRAZY”,
and once I do that,
the light bulb goes off and they suddenly realize that they can actually CHOOSE how they react to someone else’s bad behavior.
# 4: 99.99999% of what people say and do has nothing to do with you.
This has probably been the most difficult insight for me to research for you.
My second husband was a cheater. He had three affairs during our marriage and it took years for me to accept the simple fact that…
Even something as awful as cheating often has nothing to do with me.
People do what they do.
You react how you react.
Your heart is yours and you’re the only one who can make it feel anything.
#5: Never apologize for your emotions, but don’t assume that just because you feel something that makes it true and right.
Humans are a lot like crazy animals that evolved from beasts.
Just because you feel something doesn’t mean you have to act on it.
Let it hum through your veins.
Passion is infectious.
Anger is useful.
Pain is meant to teach.
Feel everything as intensely as you can.
And then once you have allowed your feelings to run their course…pull it all back and then make the choice in that particular situation that will make you happy.
#6: Great relationships are about forgiveness.
Forgive yourself for being human.
Forgive the people who share your life for being human too.
NOBODY is perfect and you wouldn’t like it if you were anyway.
(Think about it…What would a perfect person want with someone as imperfect as you?)
We don’t change as we get older, we just become more who we really are.
Love the changes.
Laugh about them.
Then go out and share your wisdom.
#7: What you love about your partner is often what drives you nuts about them too.
My husband Jeff is laid back, incredibly chill to be around. He is an extreme introvert.
I love that he lets me shine in crowds because I am an extrovert.
But sometimes, when I want him to talk and help me with a conversation…
He just quietly sits there smiling at me.
So I while I do love his quiet nature, Sometimes it also drives me nuts.
#8: Care less. Love more.
There’s only so much room in your heart for causes and passions and even people.
So I have learned the value of Picking a few.
Loving them with intensity.
And then letting the rest take care of themselves.
This had freed up so much space in my life for the people and causes that I feel really passionate about, and that has made my live GLORIOUS!
#9: Spend time each day with God.
In His eyes you are perfect just the way you are, and I have found that when I spend time with people who can accept me exactly the way I am, and ask nothing of me but that I love them…
I want to be a better person.
I want to live a life that is worthy of that kind of devotion.
I will NEVER meet another person who gave me as much and has asked so little in return as my Savior has done for me.
So the highlight of my day is to spend time in prayer thanking Him for his unconditional love and acceptance, and asking Him to teach me how to be more like HIM.
So there you have it…
My 9 POWERFUL Insights that will GUARANTEE your HAPPINESS.
I pray that you will find the joy that I have by integrating these insights into my daily life.